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“What are you doing on valentine’s day?”
Anybody who asks me that question again is entitled to a slap straight! Like they gave me a boyfriend or fiancee to hold in confidence? See me see wahala o?
My mother called me this morning and after chiding me for not keeping in touch, even though I had called her a day before yesterday, she asked “how are you planning for valentine’s day?” I simply laughed it off and mumbled something I can’t even remember.
Then I walked into the office today and met Soji at the reception, “Hey!!! Ese mi, what’s for val’s now? It’s tomorrow o!”
“Who is your Ese?” I snapped and playfully pushed him out of my way
“Incase ‘he’ is telling you val’s day blues,I am free oh!” he laughed, grabbing my hands. If only there is a he.
“Leave me joor, I have a client coming in soon and I can’t remember what alimony is” he released me and laughed as I walked away “alimony is valentine!” he called after me.
I settled into my chair and took a deep breathe, it’s been 3 years since I had cause to celebrate val’s day and even now I foresee a crappy lonely valentine’s day. Okay scratch 3 years and make that ‘never’. I mused over that thought, while I prepared for my first client’s session.
Promptly at 11am I went to one of the conference rooms where I had been scheduled to conduct clients’ sessions today and waited.
Soon a beautiful couple walked in, Aww no! Don’t tell me am gon tear you two apart?! I pasted a smile on my face and welcomed them. “Good morning Mr and Mrs Olateju, you are welcome. I am Barrister Ese…” I caught the ‘Mr’ scowling. I could not recall their first names, oh well when it gets too tough, I shall check the file again, for now I am not in the mood.
“Thank you” Mrs said smiling back.
We sat down, and when it seemed like we were going to be on mute-mode for days, I said “you called for this meeting…”
Mr cut me off “Yes we did! We want to annul our marriage” oh so you would talk and you let me start?
“Why?” I asked. Mrs looked forlorn and helpless now, I almost reached over to pat her hand, it was shaking.
“This woman here, failed to tell me about the series of abortions she has had before catching me in this net called marriage! Only to be rudely shocked after 4 years! That her tubes are blocked! ”
“Gbemi! Abortions? The doctor only said my tubes are blocked! How does that translate to abortions?”
Wait I thought he said “we want to annul”? Or ‘he’ wants to annul? Doesn’t sound like there is an agreement to annul.
“Why else would your tubes be blocked?” he eyed her. To hear someone wallow in ignorance is annoying, much so from a delicious looking dude.
“Mr Olateju, please calm down” I patted his arm lightly. This is where you pinch him.
He shrugged and sat back.
“I am not a doctor but making unfounded conclusions would not move us forward. There are many other reasons why a woman’s tubes could get blocked…” I was quickly reading from my iPad. Who says Google isn’t your friend? It’s a rule not to take sides, but I have refused to help myself. Last time a man called me a feminist. I asked him “who is a feminist?” he said “one who supports women over men”. I sized him up and felt pity for him. “Putting it simply, A feminist is one who feels men and women are equal. Check your dictionary”. Even though the dictionary says that ‘feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men’, but that story would be too long for this man. His eyes grew big. I went on to lecture him. Men and women are not equal in my opinion (though we can argue that they are in political and economic sense),even the Bible says so. But men must not be stuck-on immature, unreasonable and mean to women because of that. That is my stand. Mr here, is being immature, unreasonable and mean.
“Like?” Mr was clearly irritated. He had that look that said “are you a doctor now?”
The things we do to ensure peaceful sessions, studying medicine would have been spot-on, with the issues that come out during sessions as these -– ranging from STDs, AIDS, cancer to abortions. “I see here that there is a condition called endometriosis, the summary of it is that tissues shed during a woman’s menstrual cycle can find its way into the tubes and block it…” medicine is not for me.
I also learnt in Biology class at secondary school about Rhesus Factor. Rhesus (Rh) factor is an inherited trait that refers to a specific protein found on the surface of red blood cells. If your blood has the protein, you’re Rh positive — the most common Rh factor. If your blood lacks the protein, you’re Rh negative. Although Rh factor doesn’t affect your health, it can affect pregnancy. Your pregnancy needs special care if you’re Rh negative and your baby’s father is Rh positive. This is a major reason for the many miscarriages some women experience.
Anyway, need I say that Nigeria’s educational system is almost dead? And these days, those who got good education choose when to be educated. Sentimental ignoramuses (I know there is no word like this. LOL!). I thought about talking about Rh Factor but decided against it. Ron has warned me about assuming the position of a doctor or engineer or housewife during clients’ sessions.
“Please tell him” ‘Mrs’ cried. “I have had 3 miscarriages now, 3! He has refused to sleep with me. I have to beg my husband to sleep with me can you imagine that? Follow me to the hospital for tests he won’t! The only time he does so, he has hinged on “tubes” Talking about abortions, the only abortion I have ever had is the one I had for him!” the hairs on my skin stood. Earplugs needed!
“One foetus cannot block one’s tubes!” he retorted
“Gbemi!” ‘Mrs’ was shocked
“Whatever!” he said flippantly “her womb does not have capacity to carry my children. Another woman has proven this and I am now a father” ta da! He is a cheating frog!
What ever happened to for better for worse? In blocked tubes and in open tubes?
What followed happened very fast, the session ended. ‘Mrs’ fainted and ‘Mr’ walked out. It’s official I have the best clients’ sessions in Tristan. How I love my job.
Wait..what happens to valentine’s day tomorrow? Can’t these all wait till after valentine? How will it sound to people? “My marriage crashed on February 13th, a day to valentine..”
It’s one thing to be single without attachments (boyfriend, fiancee, friend with benefits etc.) and know you are alone, then it’s another to be married and still be alone. The latter is worse.
Now that it appears that they have agreed to annul, let the process begin.
N.B Rhesus Factor has been a lifelong issue. While preparing for marriage, Rh Factor tests is one of the many tests a couple should take to test the compatibility of their Rh Factors. Please click here to learn ways to deal with incompatible Rh factor. Thanks for reading!